Talking to Babes: Be Direct, Be Honest, Don’t Play Games
You want to get laid.
Okay, we’ve cleared that up. We’re all now aware that you’re on a hookup site because you want to get laid.
The WORST mistake guys make when talking to women is by constantly talking about how much they want to get laid. Women GET IT. Believe it or not, women also sign on to hookup sites because they want to get laid. That’s the only reason anyone gets a membership on a hookup site in the first place.
You don’t need to talk about it.
Don’t put it in your profile under your “interests.” Nothing will turn a girl off faster. You know how girls say that “men are pigs?” They don’t honestly mean it. They just say it whenever a guy talks too much about how much he wants to get laid. Girls are weird about how they think about body parts—if you compliment just one of a girl’s body parts (tits or ass), you’re a “pig.” If you just think about one of your own body parts (junk), you’re a “pig.”
Just avoid the whole thing and don’t talk about how much you want to get laid. Assume everyone already knows.
Don’t pretend you’re looking for a soul mate.
Honestly, this is just a way to save you time. As men, we’re used to spending a lot of time pretending about random shit—yes, you look great in that dress, no, I don’t mind going to your mother’s house this weekend, etcetera. Because of that, a lot of guys think that it’s natural to lie about wanting to be in a relationship all the time.
Once again, you’re on a HOOKUP SITE.
The girls on here are looking for the same thing you are: they’re looking to get laid without complications. A guy who says he’s looking for a soul mate is complicated. Either he’s really looking for a soul mate on a hookup website (loser), or he’s lying about looking for a soul mate because he thinks it’ll get him laid (asshole).
Just skip that whole thing. Don’t pretend you’re into something you’re not when looking at how to present yourself, because you ARE planning on meeting these girls in person.
If you’re really into playing pretend online, join a role playing community. Write a book about your alter ego. Just don’t do it when there’s a good chance (hopefully a certainty) that you’re going to meet these women in person, since they’ll know immediately that you’re a big fat liar.
What it all comes down to is that you want to be direct and honest. You don’t have to tell your life story, but you shouldn’t go around trying to hide crap either. You need to meet her on her level. Which means…
Don’t play games.
Most guys hate it when girls play games—but we’ve seen a LOT of girls who were grateful that we didn’t play games. They’d been worked over by a lot of guys who did the exact same thing we hate in girls!
Some examples of games dudes play that you should just knock off because you’ll never get a date:
- Break dates for the sake of making her feel insecure
- String her along just to prove that she really likes you
- Try to make her jealous by talking about other girls or taking phone calls / texts from them
This is childish and stupid, and it won’t get the girls like you hope it will. A bunch of douchey pickup artists will tell you different. Don’t listen to them. We cannot say this enough times: do not be the eyepatch dude.
You are calling the shots in this hookup. You don’t need to make this girl feel like she’s worthless just to hook up with her. You also don’t need to act like it’s fifth grade and you’re pulling her pigtails to show her you like her. Act like an adult, or you don’t deserve to have an adult relationship.
If a girl is into you, she’s into you. If it doesn’t work, let it go, there are literally millions of women out there who will have sex with you. Hell, there are 40 million users just on AdultFriendFinder, and that’s just ONE of the sites on our top 5 list of websites for hookups.
To recap, our rules for talking to babes are:
- Don’t talk about how much you want to get laid.
- Don’t pretend you’re looking for a soul mate.
- Don’t play stupid games.