How to Come Back for Round Two
Yes, it’s a hell of a lot easier to hook up than most guys think. There ARE down babes out there who are itching for an awesome time with guys like you, but we’re not going to pretend they’re just going to fall into your lap as soon as you want them.
Finding a girl who’s up for anything can be difficult, especially on any kind of regular basis—and if you’re the kind of guy who likes to get laid on a regular basis, you’re going to want at least one or two girls you can always call whenever you get horny.
So, what’s the art of finding a semi-permanent hookup without letting it turn into a relationship? Here are our three rules for navigating the world of regular hookups in your life.
Keep her number.
Have you hooked up with an awesome girl? If you met her online, you might think you can just find her on there again.
However, we don’t recommend this! If she got what she was looking for, she might have deleted her profile, but still be down for hookups. A lot of girls leave hookup sites before guys do, because they get annoyed with all the dumb messages they get from 99 percent of guys.
Even if she hasn’t taken it down, sending a message on the site where you met puts you back in the running with all the other guys messaging her again. You want to stand out ahead of the crowd—you already bought her dinner, for crying out loud!
If you keep the phone numbers of the awesome girls, you’ll always be ready to hook up. And if you’re terrible with faces and names, jot down a little description of her next to her name in your address book or phone.
Don’t call too soon.
You do NOT want to be the guy who’s getting too clingy with his hookup date right away.
Seriously, no one likes that guy. That guy is embarrassing, and he never gets laid. If you’re on a hookup site, you want no-strings-attached fun, and most girls who are on hookup sites want the EXACT same thing.
Wait at LEAST a week before calling this babe. Even if this was the best sex in your life, wait at least a week. Anything less than that means you’re trying to keep a constant communication open with her, and that’s not what you’re going for.
You want her to be your permanent hookup, not your girlfriend. Hey, if you changed your mind and you want her to be your girlfriend, that’s cool, and you just don’t have to tell anyone where you met.
But for most of us, we’re on hookup sites because we don’t WANT a relationship. We’re here to have fun, not to settle down, and it’s important the girls we hook up with know that.
If you can keep it to two weeks, that’s better, but a week is the BARE MINIMUM before you can call this girl for another hookup.
Make sure she gives you space.
Some girls are a little….too enthusiastic about becoming a permanent hookup. If your girl is one of them, you might need to watch out.
Remember what we said about waiting a week at least before contacting this girl? Yeah, girls should stick to that, too. They’re ALSO on the site looking for hookups, or so they say. They shouldn’t be pestering you for a relationship if they’re looking for hookups.
If this girl is awesome, just stop responding to her for a few days. If she gets upset or clingy, cut her free. If she responds well, you’re probably fine to continue with the hookups.
The one exception to the one week rule is if something happened on the date—if you broke your ankle, if she got a nosebleed, etc, and you didn’t see each other the next day. Then a single text saying, “Was thinking about you, hope you’re ok!” is totally justified.
If she responds, cool, if not, fine. If she does respond, don’t keep the conversation going. A single text is one thing, but an entire conversation is a totally different beast. You want this girl to be thinking about how much she wants MORE. Repeat hookups are usually nastier and more fun, so don’t forget!
So to recap, our rules for coming back for round two with a hot down babe again are:
- Keep her number.
- Don’t call too soon.
- Make sure she gives you space.