Planning Your Date: Get to Know Her, Set a Date, Set an Escape Route
So you’ve found a girl that you want to hook up with, and you’ve set up a date. That’s an awesome start to a great hookup. However, a lot of guys really struggle with getting from the first meeting to the first hookup.
We’re assuming that you’re already out on a date with this girl, which means you’ve been doing great so far. However, there are a few definite rules you need to follow when planning your hookup before you can get successfully into this girl’s pants—and no, it’s really not that much work.
Get to know her.
This one can be a double-edged sword. Getting to know this girl can really help you get laid. Girls like it when you talk about things that are personal to them, and a lot of them feel more comfortable with a guy who knows some stuff about their lives, even if it’s just a hookup.
However, you can also waste time with this technique. Make sure you’re not trying to get her life story. If it’s that interesting, she’ll write a book about it that you can buy.
Just make sure you’re getting to know enough about her that you know what’s up, and if you really want to hook up with her. After all, you have standards, and she should meet them.
Once you decide that you know enough about her and you want to take the plunge, you’ll be much better equipped to do that than you would be without the precious information.
Choose your timing wisely.
Timing your date is important. While timing may be the great key to comedy, it’s also one of the great keys to dating. This is true in more ways than one, both about what time you set up your date, how far in advance you set it up, and how much time you spend there.
Make sure you don’t set up your date too far in advance. You want to make sure that you can prepare for your hookup before it happens, sure. However, you also don’t want to set it up far enough in advance that you’re stressing over it, or having anxiety. That can lead to a lot of over-thinking, which can make you a VERY awkward first date.
If you’re JUST meeting for a hookup, two or three days in the future is a good length of time. That way you have enough time to get everything in order and you’re not scrambling, but you also don’t have time to work yourself into too much stress. That’s one of our best strategies for getting laid.
You’re also going to have to figure out what time of the day you want to meet. It can be tempting to meet very late in the evening for a hookup date, but we don’t advise it.
Instead, try meeting in the early evening, or mid-evening. You want to be able to DO something with yourself if the date turns out to be a wash. Otherwise, if you have a bad hookup date and your date doesn’t want anything more to do with you, you wouldn’t even have the opportunity to go out. You’d just wind up sitting at home alone.
Another reason to set it so early is that a lot of girls feel more comfortable meeting in the early evening. There’s a sense that bad things only happen at nighttime, and girls can get kind of spooked about weird things, when they’re on first dates.
Make sure you have an “out.”
You might think your date is going to go well. That’s awesome! However, just in case it doesn’t go quite as well as you think, it’s for the best that you have a person who is totally willing to bail you out anywhere, any time, and for any reason—and no, we don’t mean they’ll be responsible for bailing you out of actual jail!
Just make sure that there’s someone who will call you if things get bad. Slip off to the bathroom and set a phone alarm, if you have to, and pretend it’s someone calling you with an emergency. Practice what you would say first to get out of a dud date, so the person you’re meeting doesn’t think that you’re just trying to get rid of her.
Even if you don’t care about her feelings, you’re still going to be in a public place for your first meeting, and you don’t want to come across as the guy that’s really mean to girls.
If you have an “out,” you’ll be ready to go to pretty much any first date that life can throw at you.
So to recap, the three rules for planning your date are:
- Get to know a bit about her.
- Plan your date correctly.
- Make sure you have a solid “out.”